Breaking up with your SO before going off to college
Today were talking about breakups. Should you breakup with your high-school sweetheart? Is one of the many questions new college goers ask themselves. Honestly there’s no right formula to answer this question. Its entirely up to you, to figure out if your high-school relationship can survive long distance. Most high school relationships aren’t serious enough to last long distance. Or maybe your relationship is serious and you’re pretty sure it can last long distance, but you find yourself wanting to explore new possibilities. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Going off to college is that time to explore , it’s where you lay your foundation for all aspects of your life. You’re going to meet allot of people from all over the world! Why wouldn’t you want to explore that? Personally I believe that being a young adult, its not time to settle down, but explore in a positive and healthy way! Though there is some young adults that have found their soulmates! *inserts rolling eyes here*
I’m going to leave you some tips on how to go about breaking up with your high-school sweetheart, in a way that will leave a possibility for a friendship! Also on helping you cope with the breakup. After all they were a pretty big part of your life, you should always cherish the good memories and apply the lessons they’ve taught you throughout your life!
Now that you figured out what you want, it’s time to tell your significant other, but when is the right time to tell them?
- When you’ve notice that your significant other, starts making future plans for your relationship, you don’t want them wasting their time or giving them a false notion.
- When you guys have alone time, but not on a special occasion! You don’t want to scar them.
- When you find yourself being slightly annoyed by them, even when they aren’t doing anything wrong. ex: ignoring calls, text and feeling like they are smothering you.
- When you do tell them, make sure you’re not abrasive, allow them to share their feelings and definitely listen to what they have to say.
- Let them know you still do care about their well being, and if there’s anything you can do, to help them cope.
Now that you’ve told your significant other, how do you get over the breakup?
- If you haven’t already, join the gym! Most universities have a free gym membership for students! Joining the gym is a healthy alternative for relieving stress, instead of drugs and alcohol.
- Sign up for counselling. Most universities have a free counselling for students! Majority of the times a counsellor, can put the feelings jumble up in your mind into words! That’s a great help when trying to move on.
- Eat healthy, who am I kidding make that eat healthier, you can still have your cookie dough ice cream, but make sure to have a well balanced meal too!
- Don’t stalk their social media, give yourself some space. It’s highly needed. You need to give yourself a chance to develop your own person.
- Schedule out your weeks! I recommend getting a physical planner book, but your reminder app on your phone works too! This helps to keep you busy and having something to look forward to, almost week.
- Last but not least be open! Be open to having fun with friends, instead of staying cooped up in your dorm/apartment, be open to meeting new people, and definitely date again when you’re ready and not a moment before, its a recipe for disaster.
Hope this helps!